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正如前面提到的,我最近开始题为“如果你打算符合大于一夫人”的论坛主题。金宝搏苹果下载这吸引了很多的都大为赞赏,多样化的评论略显模糊了关键的消息,我想传达。


So this article is part two of a summary of my ideas on this subject. If anyone wants to see all the entertaining comments originally posted on the topic, simply take a look at the relevant thread in the forum section of this highly informative website.

This article relates primarily to a perceptive comment in the original thread on this topic by Dancing Shoes, who I’d like to thank for posting it. She said,

“I think the man who tells you that he will meet more women than you is very sincere and honest enough. But there is one problem that, if the women he visits are located in different cities, then he needs to connect his trips well. But it is difficult for a foreigner to arrange his travel agenda such as traffic, inland flights, hotels and meals in an alien country. You must be aware that you may get frustrated while you’re traveling in an alien country because you don’t know any of their language. Some taxi drivers do not speak good English and they may not always know your hotel’s name or your destinations (railway station or airport). So will you consider just staying in one large city such as Beijing, Shanghai or Hongkong, and tell all the ladies your hotel name and address, and the meeting date with each one, and just ask the ladies to come to meet you?”

This is an interesting and very valid point indeed.

想象一下,宛然西方人一个很好的满足一个美妙的新中国小姐是他的妻子,谁的梦想。他前往中国,以满足几位女士在偏远的方式展开全国各地。它是合理的,他订到远地理定位在中间尽可能给大家一个城市他希望看到的 - 然后希望他们来找他?还是应该做所有的辛勤码自己,一步步地单独在各自的区域看到每个人旅行?

我最初曾打算通过自己全国各地旅行,但在仔细考虑,也许它不是最好的事情?有十二个我想在这里讨论如下。

LANGUAGE

Most Westerners cannot speak Mandarin. If a lot of travel across China is to be involved, surely on this one important point alone, it'd be so much easier for the lady to travel, rather than the ignorant Westerner who's totally bewildered and baffled by the strange dialect he hears that sounds like so much confusing gibberish to him?

DISTANCE
如果一个人已前往8000公里到中国 - 从世界到另一个世界的一部分 - 为什么不能她自己的国家内的女士前往迎接他,即使是几百甚至为她千公里旅程?一千公里超过八千吧还是少了很多?而没有签证,护照或时区问题涉及她。不同的是陷入困境的人谁也处理所有这些自己,包括可能两次前往中国大使馆在他的祖国,为了签证安排,再加上支付相关费用,并为这个费用。然后,当然,他有预订和国际机票买单。另外安排下班时间等,不一而足。

Many ladies may not fully appreciate the big effort that the gentleman she's seeing has already gone to, even before he sets foot in China.

让我们面对事实 - 不是每个人都有发达的航海技能。有些人迷失驾驶着自己的家乡。一个西方人像这样跨在一个巨大的和异乡陌生城市的众多尝试成功穿越前景将是强大的艰巨他。我相信,单这很点将恐吓很多男性到这样的程度,他们根本就不敢做出这样的挑战之旅摆在首位。188bet官网

Let's be honest here. Not every Western man is particularly intelligent.
并不是每一个西方人特别大胆或大胆。
并不是每一个西方人有刚毅 - 在他的肚子上燃烧的火 - 伸手毅然追寻自己的梦想。

So it just makes plain good sense that the easier and the simpler that wise and empathic Chinese ladies can make it for these ordinary Westerners to locate and woo them, the better.

严重与否?
An interesting side issue is this. Unless there's a compelling reason to the contrary, if a lady won’t visit the man, then perhaps this is a telling indicator that maybe he shouldn’t be bothered with her in the first place? Is she too lazy, too haughty, too uncommitted - to make a big effort to see her man - just as quite clearly, he's already made a serious effort to see her?


两房
如果一个人的请求的女士看他,他当然应该本书两个房间的酒店,一个为他和一个为他的朋友。他应该让每个人都清楚发生了什么 - 不隐瞒事实,他将看到一个以上的女人。他会强调,他不希望,也不打算与任何人发生性关系。这根本不会是一个公平,也不合理的事情由什么像样的绅士的情况下做的。

BE PREPARED - DO NOT WEAKEN
On this point, I can foresee the potential situation where one or more of the ladies he meets will come on strongly to him, doing her darndest with all her sweet feminine wiles, to jump into bed with him. The man should be mentally PREPARED IN ADVANCE for this CERTAINTY and at all costs, remain resolute. The fact is, it's not whether any of the ladies will try to do this, but how many!

他应该礼貌但坚定地说她下面。事实上,他应该记住这一点,他符合任何人之前,明知保证,这将有被重复至少一人。

“I really appreciate the effort you’ve made to come and see me. I think you’re an extremely attractive lady. Normally there’d be nothing better that I’d like to do than to make love with you. I need to say though, that I cannot and will not. As you know, I’m meeting several people during my time here and I’ve promised everyone that there will be NO SEX involved with anyone. The other ladies are taking my word here - so I cannot breach their trust or let them down. How'd you feel for example, if I’d made love to the last lady who was here? Or to the last two or three ladies! I’m sure you can both understand and respect my position here, just as I intend to exhibit equal respect and integrity to all of you."

FOR LADIES ONLY
好了,本节仅针对女士。如果任何西方人在读这篇文章,请停在这里,直接进入下一节,因为接下来的两个段落是保密的,只有女士们的眼睛。

为了谁正在读这篇文章的女士们,你也可以检查你的男人。假设你在这种情况下,满足了他在酒店里,知道你会出现的几个中的一个和他在一起的是。作为一个完整的测试,为什么不这样做你最好的勾引他,为了看他是否确实跟你做爱?如果男方坚决抗拒你的进步,这是一个好兆头,因为他很可能是一个道德上正派,耿直之士。

但是,如果他融进你的怀里没有太多的阻力,这不会对未来的好兆头。机会是他也许是一个有点花花公子型的?最起码,他是一个道德上有问题的性格,作为一个独特的情况,例如一些美丽温柔的灵魂这涉及到信任,他绝对应该一直保持强劲,而不是像动物。

LADIES数目增加
住在一个城市的另一个优点是,该名男子可能看到女士们的数量增加。If a guy knows he has to travel by himself all over a country where he can't understand the language nor read the writing, quite naturally, he’ll think hard before deciding to see someone who may live in some obscure town that he's never heard of, nor has any idea where it's located. He’ll tend to cut down his “long list” of ladies to see, to a “short list”.

但是,如果人知道他不会有处处由他本人闲逛的可能疲劳,孤独的时尚,越来越有可能沿途丢失,那么很容易,他可以更多一些的女士加入到他的名单看。

这份名单加长使得有很大的意义,因为也许是人,否则他可能not've懒得看的一个,实际上可能变成是一个令人愉快的灵魂,他得到的最好的!

服装

Yet another advantage of staying in one city is related to weather, or more precisely, clothing. If a man travels to China in winter and needs to head north, he may well find himself in snow or otherwise very bleak conditions. Wanting to travel light however, he may not've packed sufficient warm clothing in his medium sized suitcase to stay warm. But if he knows he’ll be staying for the duration of his trip in a city with a reasonable, non-frigid temperature range, he needn’t bother cramming his already overburdened suitcase with all manner of heavy outfits.

COSTS

If a lady can't afford the train or air ticket costs to see the man, then he should graciously pay them for her. Not every person in China is well off - Western men are aware of this and all decent gentlemen would in turn accept responsibility here. And if they don't, then this should be a big red flag to the lady that maybe the guy's not so wonderful after all?

很明显,他将支付所有她的酒店房间成本。从理论上讲,一个女人谁是一个小可怜应该不需要在所有关于她的旅程花费多少,只要她建议事先她的真实财务状况的人。这位女士不应该感到尴尬,因为西方男人都知道在中国很多优秀的人的经济状况。所以钱不应该是一个问题。如果一个女人拒绝旅行,看看这个男人,甚至被告知它会花费她什么都没有,除非有其他引人注目的问题后,那么这个老太太应该从名单划伤。

儿童

如果孩子几天后一个年轻的孩子一个女人不能找人的样子,那么男人应该说,“没问题 - 你把孩子“!

利用儿童作为人合法借口不能够旅行,以满足她的朋友西部我看不到。它不会是地球的末日,如果孩子错过了几天上学,由于涉及大的赌注。我们谈论的是一个完整的生活方式的改变和可能结婚的女士,毕竟。如果她狡辩,她的孩子不想她去看看你或什么的,并以此为理由不来拜访你,this'd是红旗警报的人,也许他将永远被放在第二位置这背后女士被宠坏的儿子或女儿。

工作

On a few occasions, the lady may have legitimate difficulty taking time off work. A little flexibility would be called for here by the man. In this situation, I'd try to meet such a person over a weekend. Perhaps she could travel to be with him on the Friday night, then leave for home on the Sunday night?

Although on the other hand, if she can't take time off work, wouldn't the same situation arise if the man went to see her directly? Would being able to see each other after work for a couple of days when naturally she's a little flustered and tired, be adequate for them to really get to know each other? I guess it's better than nothing, though not ideal. This contingency would need to be dealt with in as practical as fashion as possible, should it occur.

时间

多少时间与每个人花?这是在个案基础的情况下,被认为是个人的事情,确定等因素的人有多少时间可以留在中国,有多少女士们,他打算去看看。当然,每个多长时间小姐可能有也可能没有提供给她。

In theory, the longer the better. But in practice, my gut feeling is that where multiple ladies are involved, three to five days with each person should be aimed for. Three days would be an absolute minumum, and I mean three full days if possible, not two half days and a full one sandwiched in between.

如果只有两三个宫女看然而,然后每人也许五至十天就可以了,如果你既可以管理它。

结论
鉴于上述所有,最合理的人 - 男人和女人 - 都同意它更为明智的人留在位于市中心镇,所有的女士都位于,然后要求他们请过来给他。

会议时间紧将创建,显示既为每个女士的到来和离开日期。188bet官网如果一个人由于某种原因,不转了,然后简单地挠她从列表,并添加一些额外的时间到其他各个夫人的访问,如果在这么晚的阶段,有可能为他们耍弄或调整自己的出行计划。有时会,有时不会。

I'd recommend that upon arrival and after settling into his hotel, the man purchase a prepaid sim card for his phone. He'd then send a text to each of the ladies, confirming with them all of his contact details, including the hotel address, phone number and room number details, plus reconfirm with them, their own separate arrival dates and times. The plan would now be ready to unfold as it should.

如前所述,这个程序提供了很大的灵活性,尽可能的季节去。我最初计划等待温暖的天气在中国的抵达,但现在我有赏心悦目的选择去任何时候,我喜欢。

Our goals will only ever be fully realised by those bold enough to move out of their comfort zones and reach for the unreachable, strive for the improbable.


因为你知道吗?也许终于找到我们迷人的灵魂伴侣看似艰巨的任务 - 欺骗性和妖艳我们一直在等待从字面上我们生活的人 - 可能很快就会在我们的掌握之内,对于我们这些愿意在这里既敢于梦想,然后工作努力实现它。

"All glory visits those who begin
所有的遗憾访问那些谁不”

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#2013年12月4日22点58分37秒通过Barry1 @ Barry1

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因为写这篇文章,只是出于好奇,我问了三个女人,我一直在这里聊天,几个星期谁我会认为是相当不错的朋友,如果他们会满足我,如果我去了位于中心城市。截至目前,该装置已经说我是去给他们,他们会各自愉快地接受了。

一位女士回答说是的,她会来找我。一个说,“也许”。一个人直接说“不”。

好了,想不到。谁说,“也许”对我来说是一个真正的失望,因为我一直在聊天,她最长的大家,并认为她是最接近我所有的朋友CLM的女士。金宝博官网谁愿意这位女士说,没有,没有什么大不了的,因为我们没有尽可能多的人聊天。

The culling system is working already.... the leopards are showing their true spots that hitherto had been cleverly disguised.

该系统已经显示出它的价值,即使我不一定喜欢什么我找到了。真理有时会疼,但不应该被拒绝。

伟大的东西,这个整体概念 - 这个计划 - 更简单,更快捷,比我想象的从谷壳整理出小麦更有效。

Let the games begin.

#2013年12月5日1时31分14秒通过Anonymouth @Anonymouth

@ barry1是的,我同意你的看法。我认为对于一个中心基地“Bacchelor,中国版”是一个好主意。你必须确保你选择合适的场地了。

1。A large but private, room suitable for the dance-off. Somewhere open enough to line up 6 or 8 women and still give each enough room to do her full and seductive dance number without tripping over the girls to her left and right. Of course your chair needs a good central location with room on all sides for the dance off finale when the women will all simultaneously surround your chair and really do whatever they think will MOST hold your attention to them only, come on ladies you must pull out (or off) all the stops here if you want to win the prize.

2.Private alcoves.. Your venue must have a good place for the kissing part, an important aspect of the contest. The more private the better so the "contestants" will be more comfortable getting frisky or "creative". Creativity is certainly worth extra points though technique and effort are also equally important in the scoring of this part.

3.晚礼服...

Seriously Bro... I think you are worrying way too much about this orchestration of multiple meetings thing. Just be upfront and let them know you are open to whatever, you are serious.. But are just worried that without the real, in person meeting and spending time together thing you cant be sure what's real. As long as she knows you are going to meet a couple others, then she can make up her own mind too.

I'm against central home base idea and Ill tell you why. The women will know fun places to take you and great restaurants, or ones they've never been to but always wanted to try in their own home city. Let them show you around and take you to nice romantic places.

Sex? You're both consenting adults. Dont artificially constrain the natural progression of a potential relationship by putting the kabash on real developing feelings. The magic that could have been might vanish forever. As long as you are honest. If you have an amazing time all day with one woman and you both feel it, let that kiss happen and anything else that follows. If she melts you and you are helpless putty in her hands maybe thats the sign to call and deeply apologize to the others. Love cannot be so rationalized and quantified. Its a qualified thing, it's between the lines. On a score card this one might lose in every category yet some subjective thing like a dimple that just pops out w a shy smile tells you from your heart that she's the one.

我想你一定缩小到不超过三个,然后尝试安排一个谁你真的觉得是最有可能是她的第一次。我真的完全不同意你说的真正的爱情是否可以行发生。它的风险,让它走到这一步肯定的,但伟大的事情是值得很大的风险..什么是找到你的生命价值的爱吗?当我把一切都和其他人放在一边,去了中国只是一个女人,我很害怕狂妄,因为我下了这架飞机,她将和其他人不同,否则会感觉不一样,因为它夜间视频后一夜没夜聊天,但它是不是看我是否爱她。我已经做了。这只是请请让它成为同美国之间的人,因为它是网上...它是。没有变化几乎就像我在客厅里挂了电话,走进厨房给我们同样的谈话进行不口吃的一步。

There are some things about which Im so like Mr Spock.. All logic n science about.. But love is a natural and spontaneous, subjective feeling that you cant apply all these rules to. You will kill it before it has enough open air to take flight. You will hobble the romance that is the building block of passion and real feeling. Dont do it.

放下规则的书,只要按照你的心脏。它是如此的真实,如此强大,但它会如果你试图把它放在显微镜下观察和分析了所有的魔法在你眼前消失。越少越好最终人选,并在自己的领地里,他们都非常舒适,可188bet官网以自己迎接他们,然后给他们各自充分的重视和不设置路障。先到先得。如果您发现事情是真正大功告成。这是不是比赛,这不是一个比较。你打算在年底做。做一个利弊ň利弊图?给出一组数字分数相符并挑选赢家?那是一个可怕的石头心肠的方式来选择。更寒冷,不仅仅是与每个女孩你的自我,是开放给任何东西,然后关注你和她的感情恶化。

#2013年12月5日1点45分23秒通过matthew1975 @ matthew1975

这是一个很深思熟虑的总结。我本人也去过中国两次,至今尝试和别人见面,并伤心地说已经满足不了问题两次的女人。所以我在这一点上达成一致,计划以满足参观一个以上的女士绝对是个好主意。我很好奇一两件事,虽然,也许它并不适用于你,因为我不认为你是一个美国人?但是,从我了解到,最近来中国的签证政策的变化意味着不请自来的从别人在中国的信美国人无法获得签证进入中国。我在有些手足无措,如何应对这一点我自己,因为我正打算再次前往这个春天,现在我不知道我会的。虽然我认为这仍可能无需签证来港旅游。无论如何,感谢这篇文章中,我要保存它,并将其作为项目的列表在未来考虑,很多很好的信息在这里!

#2013-12-05 10:02:44 bydancingshoes @dancingshoes

@Barry。

Interesting! While you are writing this blog here about the strategies to meet the Chinese ladies, there is at the same time another thread forum about how to receive the western guys and how to show him around in China - "若有朋自远方来 接待与出行参考----------". This sister posted the detailed solutions about the lauguage, costs, hotels, dresses, laundry, traffic, restaurants/special snacks and resorts sightseeing, etc.

巴里,我对“两房”有一个问题:如果在西部家伙坚持一个房间怎么样两张床?哈哈。它是由一位女士在中国的论坛主题提出了一个问题。金宝搏苹果下载

#2013-12-05 15:25:12 by anonymous8275@ anonymous8275

Hi. I've been at this internet dating site for less than a year, so maybe I should classify myself as a "Rookie", but I cannot wrap my head around the idea of visiting several ladies. I do agree with your points above IF you are seeing more than one, but you make it seem almost like you are shopping for a lifemate. Granted, perhaps the lady(ies) will reject you after meeting so it's not just your choice, but I just don't get your approach. At the end, there may be one happy lady, but several will have had some level of commitment to you and will have broken hearts.
Perhaps because I am further away from China than you, so it is a little harder for me to visit, I want my visit to be more than just a meeting. Sex is not on the agenda either. My approach is opposite of yours. I think there is an understanding that during emails and chats, each may have more than one potential partner on the go. Over time, this will become just the one that I think will be the perfect choice, and thanks to the wonders of webcams and calling cards, I am not making this choice completely blind. I have not yet been to China, but when I go, it will be to meet just that one lady. But I am not going until I've spent sufficient time on the webcam and chatting services that I have really gotten to know the lady well. This means sharing with each other the intimate information about our lives, our work, our desires and plans. After enough time, we both should know that we are a good pair at least mentally (which is far more important in the long term). All that is left is to confirm the physical, which is when we should meet. And if it doesn't work well when we meet, then the trip will still be successful because I will turn it into a sight-seeing vacation.
I also don't fully agree with your point in part 1 of this article that you can't be truly in love with someone you have never touched. Maybe that's the Dating Rookie in me showing, but I believe that you can fall in love. What it takes, is commitment, honesty, effort and time. From both sides. When our first waking thought is of each other, when the story of every bit of our day needs to be shared each day, when we are comfortable discussing our deepest intimate secrets without hesitation, then we are in love. Maybe when we meet, she will break my heart or vice versa, but I will not feel guilty about a failed relationship that I really tried to make work. But I will feel guilty about knowingly breaking the hearts of several ladies that committed to me and lost.

#2013-12-05 23:12:01 bysandy339 @ sandy339

行百里
你完整性测试:“为什么不这样做你最好的勾引他,为了看他是否确实跟你做爱?”我的答案是否定的,我根本就没有把他那认真的一切,这种满足我可能采取它只是为了好玩,如果我有空。我想你的女士们也做好这样的准备,如果他们想勾引你,我想会有一些与他们错了,他们要么绝望或不那么健康的精神...

So I think after meetings, you'd better focus on one woman and spend and enjoy rest of your time with her only, I think she will treat you like a family member rather than a visiting foreign guest,

You make things a little complicated here? You might end up with a simple and happy story…But you might be lost at choosing, cos everyone has her own special attrubutes, don’t be a hesitate “Hamlet” otherwise you might need a second trip to China ? Haha

哈哈,“所有的荣耀探访那些谁开始,所有的遗憾访问那些谁不”这是一个挑战,或鼓励?祝好运!无论如何。

#2013年12月6日8时18分09秒通过ChinaCathy @ChinaCathy

It needs courage to cover such a long article. lol. But if it is not this long, Barry may not make himself well understood. Good for him, and thanks for the contributory idea.

Anyhow, I am convinced by his planning to meeting the ladies in Shanghai. Though at first, I think it is unseemly and inproper.

But if I were Barry, I would not find out a better solution.

So let's see what happens...

Good luck, Barry.

#2013-12-06 13:21:40 bysunrise68 @sunrise68

一个有趣的文章。哈哈,就我个人而言,如果一个男人is willing to pay for my tickets, hotel fees and other charges and he guarantees he won't commit sexual disturbance to me and meanwhile I trust him, then I would like to meet him when time permits,no matter whoever he is.

#2013年12月6日17时22分一十五秒通过JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@ Barry1- I have to tell you Barry that as much as I agree with many things about your overall plan, I think your decision to meet everyone in one central location is flawed for a couple of reasons:

1.在中国的旅行的恐惧是非常过分强调。四处逛逛中国真的没有那么难。通过在一个位置,满足您的所有潜在的队友,你会看到非常少的中国的时候,你可以在大导的存在会看到这个国家的一个了不起的数量。什么的旅行机会的浪费,并有机会看到她家门口,她是在一个舒适区每个女士。很大很大的错误。男人了,兄弟,旅行是什么保证了即使没有女士最终成为适合你旅途愉快。

2.这些女士们可能反对你的建议that you meet in the same location as you are meeting with a number of other women for valid reasons. Frankly, I think your suggested plan to meet them in one place is a little rude and is a valid reason to reject meeting you in itself. Whereas they might have been perfectly happy to accept that you will be meeting several other women, they may have well thought that forcing them to come rushing across country to a competitors home base as if at your beck and call was just too presumptuous to abide by. I know I would feel that way. So instead of testing them based on whether they are open enough to accept having known competition during your trip, you've instead tested them on whether or not they so lacking in pride that they'll do anything you ask no matter how shaming it might be.

在这一个巴里,恐怕也许你正在测试失败。抱歉讲得这么生硬,但我必须强烈要求你重新考虑,并打电话回来说谁“可能”,谁是这么好的一个朋友的太太,并真诚地道歉,她被一些不是很大的朋友自己少。然后愉快地同意到她的家乡,让她可以告诉你她的骄傲和尊严的世界的一部分。对我来说,她听起来像你轻轻地折腾掉错误的原因一个潜在的赢家。

#2013年12月6日21时26分33秒通过Barry1 @ Barry1

@Anonymouth

“欲望?你俩都同意的成人。不要把kabash真实感情发展人为限制的潜在关系的自然发展。只要你是诚实的。”

谢谢Anonymouth,你做一些伟大的点。

请问你澄清什么关系吗?你提到,我应该是诚实的。因此,让我们得到这个直,如果我手头正好有一个老太太性由于空气中的魔法,但随后继续上到下个老太太和她偏偏问我,“你还没有与任何人做爱尚未有您?”

Should I then blurt out,

“当然,由于空气中的魔法,我发生了性关系,最后太太,我看到了,但我向你保证,如果它不是为那个讨厌魔法,当然,大多数我都没有对她说。”

或者我应该说是“善意的谎言”,并说

“当然,我还没有过性行为!你怎么会甚至认为这样的事!”

Do you see what I mean here?

一旦有人减弱,有性行为,那么他要么必须与其他人谁问一下诚实的 - 否则他需要谎言堆可能告诉其他人!

你想被基于谎言与某人潜在的关系?

或者,也许直到你发现很特别的人,在这种情况下,你会取消其他人,它是更好地发挥一点自我控制,而不必与任何人做爱,或者至少不起来了。

But even this idea has a potential flaw.

正如保罗最近说 - 如果你取消所有的人,你怎么能确定一个你已经决定不看,最终可能会成为甚至比你决定留的人!他建议,每个人都应该可以看出,如果仅仅是为了你自己的心灵得到肯定。不是一个糟糕的建议。

Though this then means we're back at square one - no sex should be had with anyone, even if there is "magic in the air"? Unless you're prepared to lie through your teeth to every lady afterwards who asks about this.


@ matthew1975

“这是一个非常深思熟虑总结.....我要救它,并把它作为项目的列表在未来,很多好信息在这里考虑一下!”

感谢马修。是的,我给了这个整体思路了不少心思。它可能不是正确的,但至少,它创造了一些讨论,并引起人们去思考。在一天结束的时候,这是一件好事,是吗?

至于你的观点需要重新获得邀请函办理签证的目的,这应该是很容易的。简单地问你的一个朋友送这个交给你。然后,一旦你在中国,你可以访问别人为好,如果你选择。只是不要告诉当局,你可能会看到不止一个人,是我的建议。


@dancingshoes

“我有一个问题,‘两房’:怎么样在一个房间两张床如果西方坚持的家伙?”

如果一个人在一个房间里有两张床的坚持,这意味着两件事情之一。

1。He's a cheapskate - a miser - trying to save money, or

他不是100%的认真不想发生性关系。他可能希望在靠近两张床,一个性互动更有可能要比其在酒店的两个独立的公寓。这样的家伙是有点虚伪,在我看来。当然,他的人仔细观看。


@ anonymous8275

Thanks for your comments, Anon8275. You seem like a sincere, decent guy. A little naive perhaps, but then again you mentioned that you haven't been to China yet and were maybe a "dating rookie".

在任何情况下,这里不存在任何过错或权利。我想你已经有了一个很好的态度,我当然祝福你。

By the way, this article should be read in conjunction with Part 1, that is, "Your China Trip - If You Intend to Meet More Than One Lady", where some of the points you raised in your comments were addressed.


@ sandy339

“这种满足我可能采取它只是为了好玩,如果我有空,我想你的女士们也做好这样的准备,如果他们想勾引你,我想会有一些错误them..they要么绝望或不是那么健康的精神......“

It's interesting to hear your viewpoint that you wouldn't attend such a meeting in any way seriously. Even if the man seemed to be serious?

“你把事情复杂在这里一点点吗?你可能最终得到一个简单而快乐的故事......但是,你可能在选择丢失”

This is a very good point, Sandy. There's no easy answer to this, I agree. The whole situation could become very confusing for all.


@ChinaCathy

“这需要勇气覆盖这么长的文章.......,感谢缴费想法........”

你好鑫。你肯定是一个非常有礼貌和好的人。谢谢您的鼓励和支持的想法,他们大加赞赏。


@sunrise68

"An interesting essay..... if a man is willing to pay for my tickets, hotel fees and other charges and he guarantees he won't commit sexual disturbance to me.......... then I would like to meet him"

感谢这个,日出68.请放心,如果有的话,我们在酒店房间见面,我不会“干扰性”你。或者像我的其他中国的女性朋友是指它作为“创建性乱”。大声笑

我认为,人们需要去了解对方第一,对不对?这是运动的整体思路。

祝所有你未来的计划,Sunrise68。


@JohnAbbot

约翰,谢谢你的评论。你是很高的费用rienced in this area with a proven track record, so to diminish or ignore your words would be stepping onto dangerous ground indeed, where only errant fools would dare tread.

让我说,阅读大家的意见,并给予它更多的思考后,我决定,我的想法是对的平衡,一个坏的。请忽略它。忘记一切我写在这里!大声笑

In theory, the concept certainly has some advantages, such as being able to travel lightly, in any season; not having to worry about language difficulties or missed connection flights; being able to see an increased number of people; etc etc.

但是我不能正常协调artificial environment that I'd be meeting ladies in. They'd be away from their homes; their families; the routine familiarity of their lives. To go where? Into a sterile hotel room in some strange city? To meet a strange man they'd never met in person before? Almost certainly, this'd be a brooding recipe for disappointment and failure.

The whole situation would be just too contrived; too unnatural to work well. There'd be a lack of spontaneity; a lack of genuine congeniality; too much of a feeling of being involved in some sort of "job interview" process.

Once again, thank you to everyone who commented - or who will comment - on this interesting topic. If nothing else, it clarified a few things for not just myself, but hopefully others as well. At the end of the day, it was worth the effort in writing, even though I did end up being abruptly shot down in flames, akin to the mighty Red Baron going down with all guns firing in his beloved Messerschmitt over the fields of Normandy in WW1.

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