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John Abbot is co-owner of ChinaLoveMatch.net. Married to a lovely Chinese Lady and living in China, John knows and respects China, Chinese Women, Chinese People and Chinese Culture. His blog will include good stuff about Online Dating, Chinese Women, International Relationships and Things Chinese. Join John Abbot on谷歌+
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We Have All Lost a Dear Friend and a Guiding Light

By John Abbot
10012意见| 36意见| 2015年2月24日下午6:24:22

毫无疑问,这是我从一开始就要做的最困难的事情中国爱情网. 我很抱歉不得不向大家报告,特别是你们中与我们在一起很长一段时间的人,我们的亲密同胞和博友加雷斯·汉弗莱斯去世了,他深受读者和钦佩。今天晚上,保罗·福克斯向我报告了这个不幸的消息,他试图通过电话联系加雷斯,结果加雷斯的妹妹接了电话。她把加雷斯的去世告诉了他。188bet官方网址



I don’t have much more to report at the moment other than that Gareth passed away in his sleep, and that he left behind a new Chinese wife and a 13 year old daughter. This is just a short notice for you all and we will be putting together a much more substantial tribute to Gareth over the coming days.



I am writing his sister to seek more details about Gareth’s passing and also about his recent life since he last blogged some 8 months ago. Once we hear back from her expect a tribute to be posted shortly after.



Meanwhile, let me say that Gareth was one of the best, in my opinion the best, blogger that CLM/ALM has ever enjoyed having grace our pages. He had a keen, albeit somewhat dry, sense of humour that just added to his amazing gift at telling a story so vividly that it really danced before your eyes. Some of us write about a street and it’s just a street, but Gareth so often turned it into a living, breathing visual organism that you could picture in your mind in the finest detail.



除此之外,美国博客中没有人能够真正了解中国,中国人民和加雷斯都188bet官方网址理解他们。我在中国生活了12年,有时我觉得读加雷斯的博客比亲身体验中国更能了解中国。这就是他观察力的强大和精细调整。最近我一直在想念加雷斯的博客,突然意识到我会永远想念他们,这让我很伤心。



More later, but in the meantime, please enjoy just some of Gareth’s many great blogs through these selected links:



1.第一部分。人类学在中国-这里到底发生了什么?(Gareth’s first blog)



2.中国的神话生物-关系



三。请求宽恕比请求许可容易



四。搜索ing for a Tiger Lady



5个。Old Zhang



6.On Dating a “Traditional” Chinese Woman



7.但如果她愿意,你会喜欢的,对吧?



I am now sitting alone with the lights turned off. My computer screen lights my words as I write.



I have poured myself a generous shot of Bourbon, my drink of choice.



加雷斯和我早年在中国都有酒吧,这一点总是让我对他有兄弟般的感觉。今晚,这似乎是一个恰当的方式来告别这个人,他用简单的方式来描述和解释他对地球上最复杂的国家和文化,我们的中国,惊人的深刻和深刻的理解,如此深刻地感动了我,启发了我。



现在我举起杯子。



烤面包,加雷斯。



May you sleep well but briefly, and may morning find you in a better place. May your wife and daughter treasure the short time they spent with you, and may they find you again someday, there in that better place. Thank you for lighting our way during the time we shared with you in China. Thank you for taking the time to help us find our way. You will not be forgotten, you will be missed. Cheers to you dear friend. Gambei!


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#2015-02-24 19:32:20截止日期Barry1 @巴里1

For once, I am lost for words to say.

上帝保佑你,加雷斯。

Thank you so much for the advice, the stories and the memories you generously bequeathed to so many of us here, myself included.

愿上帝也保佑你深爱的妻子和在苏州的孩子,他们现在已经被遗弃了。我祈祷并相信,中国家庭成员现在将密切支持他们,提供迫切需要的安慰和支持。

一个好生活is one that has not been wasted. Most certainly, this applies to our dear friend and learned comrade, Gareth. :(;(:(;(

#2015-02-24 20:03:56 by奥拉约 @奥拉约尔

surprised me ,,,in shock ! so sorry to hear it ....
i am in suzhou and i read his blog too ,,,hope we all are happiness and long live....

一、加雷斯。。。

#2015年2月24日20:16:19paulfox1 @保罗福克斯1

John
你的话使我感动得说不出话来。
我很抱歉今天不得不把这个悲惨的消息告诉你。
Gareth was not only a fellow blogger but also my personal friend. We had enjoyed each other's company on many occasions both in his favourite Starbucks as well as in various restaurants. He was a big man with a big heart
I'm in a friends bar as I write this - also toasting my good friend who I will sorely miss. What makes it worse for me is that I spoke to him just 2 days before he passed away
我写这篇文章的时候眼里含着泪水,喉咙里有个大肿块
无论你身在何处,我都永远不会忘记你,永远都会用爱和爱铭记你
so long buddy

#2015-02-24 22:56:03截止日期琴键 @QinQL

John

是真的吗?

告诉我,告诉我们,这不是真的,约翰,我们知道你喜欢开玩笑。。。

He is so young, just has a new chinese wife and a lovely baby, how could he passed away from his new happy family and his fans like us here so suddenly...

I opened Gareth's profile again after I read this blog article. He told us "Married but friendly" in his profile. " I have lived here(Suzhou) for 15 years and I like the place very much!!" What he did and talked really let's feel he likes Suzhou likes China very much. John, he has lived in china 3 years more than you.

我记得加雷斯在博客和论坛上和我谈过好几次。。。。。。金宝搏苹果下载188bet官方网址
and I feel honor because I knew he is one of the greatest bloggers on CLM.

眼泪蒙住了我的眼睛。

#2015-02-25 03:03:24 byYinTingYu @殷廷玉

@John Abbot
All,
"I read the news today oh boy,...about a Lucky man who made the Grade...".
These were the first lyrics that came to mind when I heard of Gareth's passing.
Immediately I went for the 18 year old Glenlivet reserved for such occasions and now write.

I never had the chance to meet Gareth in person but only through his blogs and comments.
Hopes are that they will be saved / archived for all to read. Those articles really helped me when I first became a member.

我感觉到他的头脑敏锐,他的心脏很好,而且两者都是相连的(想象一下)。
加上愉悦的幽默感,积极的人生观,一定程度的同情心,把它们放在一个大包裹里,结果:一股生气勃勃的生命力!准备好宇宙,“有一个好的来了”!!

Although he will be sorely missed by family, friends, and members here, it is hoped that along with our grieving we can also celebrate his life, feel good that we got to meet him, that he was kind enough to share his insights and some time with us.

I think he was Very Lucky to experience, learn, know what Love is and,... how to give it.
This in itself, from my view, is worth a Lot in any life one is fortunate enough to have.
We will remember you Gareth. We will remember You kind fellow.

Sincere Condolences to All,
拉乔·德罗姆·加雷斯。
(safe journey)
Latcho Drom.....

Y.T.Y., Gongji

#2015-02-25 05:49:28 by综管5922 @Imi5922

好人早逝。很多人会想念你的。

Rest in peace Gareth.

#2015-02-25 07:09:00 by麦查普 @麦查普

John,

你感觉加雷思的方式是通过你的感觉words.

#2015-02-25 07:11:36 by成城72 @chengcheng72

我也很抱歉听到这个坏消息新闻。我们从他的博客里都知道他是一个非常热爱生活的人,他总是深思熟虑。188bet官方网址

让我们珍惜我们的生命和时间!

一路走好!

#2015-02-25 07:54:50截止日期JohnAbbot @约翰纳博特

To all of you above, thank you for adding your voices to mine in expressing what a loss this was and how important Gareth was to us. Your thoughts are beautiful, and I am sure his family will be reading them and take joy in how many people Gareth has benefited through his wonderful and big-hearted writing.

加雷斯给了我们很多,通过在这里表达我们的谢意,我们希望能给他一些回报。请继续评论。我们保证好好利用它们。

#2015年2月25日12:38:15paulfox1 @保罗福克斯1

I would like to share something about Gareth that most of you here never knew about.

很少有C金宝博官网LM成员知道我和加雷斯曾多次见面,并在过去几年左右成为朋友。每当我在离苏州不远的中国城市,我总是给他打电话,我们会安排见面。在火车或公共汽车上呆上几个小时对我来说可能是件麻烦事,但这总是值得的,因为我看到了这个大个子热情的微笑。
Gareth was a BIG man with a big heart and a personality to match. You all know him through his excellently written blogs here that span the last 5 years and in real life he was exactly the same as he portrayed himself in his writings.
You probably know that he ran a bar for a few years and there is no doubt that this is where he met and made friends with so many people. As a foreigner in China he was unrivaled when it comes down to knowing how things "tick" in this sometimes foreboding country.
干完酒吧生意后,加雷斯把工作时间花在教商务英语上。
His huge frame earned him the name 'pang lao shi ', literally meaning "fat teacher". He never became offended by this and seemed to quite happily amuse people who commented on his weight. So much so that Gareth even adopted panglaoshi as his personal email address.
但他决不会自称是教师。他是一名英语“教练和导师”。中国人喜欢“地位”,这是他最大化收入的简单方法。作为一名“教练”或“导师”,他可以比作为一名普通的老“老师”收取更高的费用。这就是他对中国和中国文化的理解,他利用中国文化为自己谋利,就像一个中国人自然会这么做一样。
I have mentioned his big physical size several times and this is nothing new. Gareth himself has made reference to it in many of his blogs, but I want to share a little 'secret' with you as to the way in which Gareth viewed his own big body.
He had a little 'game' that he loved to play.....
当他和中国朋友出去吃饭或喝酒时,加雷斯会坚持说,在去目的地的路上,他的朋友会在他身后走10米左右。
A man the size of him is a rare sight indeed but in China? Comments in Chinese would come thick and fast as other groups of people walked past in the opposite direction. Out of earshot of Gareth but well within the earshot of his friends 10 paces behind, the comments would be translated into English and told to Gareth. He never seemed to tire of the remarks people used to make about him.
He KNEW he was a big guy but he always said that he would get around to doing something about it "one day" - such was his inimitable way.
It's so sad that he never quite got around to it. Having spoken to Gareths sister it seems that it's accepted that his size contributed to his untimely passing. He passed away peacefully in his sleep. At this time there is to be no post mortem at the request of his family.
Knowing the man as I did, and knowing how he felt about the subject of his size, I must admit to having a wry smile on my face when I woke up alive and kicking this morning.
I'm not a little guy. I used to be up around 126 kilo but currently at around 105 with a goal of closer to 95 - Gareth was easily TWICE my size and weight.
It would take a strong man to lift or carry me but the wry smile came as I imagined Gareth looking down from above as small Chinese paramedics attempted to remove him from his bed into a more permanent resting place.
I just wondered how many men were needed to carry out this grim task.
我知道加雷斯会很享受这场“比赛”的最后一刻,也会很乐意听到那些负责转移他的人的评论。
It certainly would have brought a smile to his face
R.I.P. my friend!

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