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When I originally undertook to write a blog entry about my profile pictures, I had only intended to explain and defend my decision to post the four pictures which I have uploaded to my profile so far. I believed that if only I could provide the definitive explanation for my decisions, then everyone would understand and stop criticizing me for it. Then I realized that this was a futile hope. Why? Because many of the people criticizing me were not actually doing so out of ignorance, but rather due to differences of opinion about dating strategies and differences in core values. Thus, no explanation from me, no matter how eloquently phrased, no matter how well-conceived, and no matter how definitive will be adequate to head off such criticism. Nevertheless, I do see some value in attempting to elucidate my thoughts on these matters. However, that value may not necessarily be derived from its persuasiveness. I realized that I needed to expound upon much more than just why I chose the four pictures currently adorning my profile.



Perhaps no aspect of my blog entries has received more criticism on CLM than my profile pictures. These criticisms have varied from friendly suggestions that the pictures are undermining my ability to find my lifemate to outright demands that I replace them. I have read these comments, carefully considered them, and then rejected them. Why? The simple answer was that I disagreed with that advice, but that just begs the question, why did I disagree? I have tried to explain this through various comments, but the criticisms kept getting repeated anyway, so I have obviously failed to adequately explain my position. That was why I decided to make this issue the subject of this blog entry. Hopefully, I can fully explain the reasons why I have uploaded the pictures which appear in my profile along with the reasons why I had no intention of changing them. Some of those reasons were due to practical considerations while others were driven by more philosophical considerations.



这表现在该行的首段,我们在某种程度上由我们穿什么定义的概念是古老的。它一直重复在西方文化中,至少在过去的两千年。莎士比亚转述罗马谚语在剧中,村庄。在波洛尼厄斯的慈父般的忠告gave to his son, Laertes, was "Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy, but not expressed in fancy; rich not gaudy, for the apparel oft proclaim the man." The modern equivalent of the ancient Roman proverb was "dress for success" which has been repeated to me in comments posted here.



我认为,整个概念,我们都应该“天价你的习惯,正如你的钱包能买到”是什么驱使所有的在我的CLM的批评。金宝博官网拒不按这个不成文的规矩要遵守,我违反了一个社会禁忌,违反社会禁忌往往被认为比犯法更糟。那些胆敢违反社会习俗通常被认为是由那些谁坚持那些相同的海关威胁。一个要不然怎么可以解释一些对这种社会偏差的敌意?否则为什么没有它甚至关系呢?



I posted the four profile pictures which I have on CLM because they are an accurate reflection of how I look. When I uploaded those pictures, I believed that how I normally dress was every bit as important as my physical features. I was showing my potential matches exactly how I looked on a typical day. There was a fundamental honesty about those pictures that I suppose just might have seemed unnerving to some men here.



但也有参与,以及实际问题。我本质上是一个功利的,这延伸到我的衣服为好。我主要是穿舒适,其次是出于谦虚的衣服。我不穿衣服给其他人留下深刻的印象。我也从冰雹无产阶级背景。虽然我很受过良好的教育,这并不能改变我是无产阶级的事实。我从来没有在我的生命举行了白领工作或与着装的地方工作。我根本没有“更好”的衣服,我不打算收购任何仅仅是为了打扮的资料照片的缘故。



该re have been times when I did attend functions that required dressing appropriately, such as weddings or funerals. Attendance at such events has been rather rare, however. Whenever I do, I either rent clothes or borrow them from a relative. The last such function was my niece's wedding. Unfortunately, I did not have any pictures from that wedding.



我以前在我的评论说,这一点,但不是每个人都读了评论,所以我会再说一遍。谁仅仅拒绝约会我,我怎么打扮的基础上,任何一个女人188bet官网是不是人,我会照顾至今摆在首位。就我而言,这样的女人是浅泥的水坑。我不是在寻找一个奖杯妻子。我为什么要和谁约会一直在寻找一个奖杯丈夫188bet官网的女人?我一直在寻找一个女人谁是与我相兼容。显然,谁也通过我的个人资料的照片被人打扰了这么多女人不会愿意接受我,我就是道路,因此,不会与我相兼容。也许这是一种堂吉诃德式的追求。但是,几乎没有理由不承担它。一个生命的少数确定性的是,如果你什么都不做,什么都不会发生。



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#2018年5月19日1时26分29秒通过JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

罗杰,有这么多不同角度的人阅读这个博客可能需要我作出评论,他们每个人是适合各种原因和错误的各种原因。188bet官方网址我有一些直接回应您所提出的观点,我采取如下:

你选择装扮成你在你的头像做,因为这正是你在现实生活中的着装方式,所以这是保证以最好的方式,你只吸引最适合成为你的终生伴侣,因为这些显然是女性的女性谁不是从你穿着你真的穿着方式真正的威慑。这些谁就会被吓倒永远不会让你一个很好的人生伴侣,所以你如果他们不来表达对你的兴趣不关心。

First, before I bother engaging with you, and explaining where I think you have gone wrong, can you please confirm that is your position.

其次,我不清楚为什么要这么写这个博客的。188bet官方网址我倾向于认为一个人写了一个博客,使一个点,在此过程中创造周围的点,他的讨论/她正188bet官方网址在打算。换句话说,我们写的博客产生的讨论,将提供最多的观点,从中我188bet官方网址们可以学习不同的点。为此,我们必须承认,很可能会发生,范围从赞誉,广泛协议,一般不和,调侃到彻头彻尾的粗暴回应。我们还必须接受发将在一定程度上自然个人,特别是当标的物在本质上是个人,大多数的意见 - “我们的着装方式”。

But that is me, and you are you.

So again, before I bother engaging with you, and explaining where I think you have gone wrong, can you please confirm if that is your purpose in writing this blog, and if not can you please suggest what you are expecting by way of reader reaction, so I can read again what you have written but from the POV of how you are hoping I will react.

I am asking this because my reaction to this will entail getting personal, not insulting, but definitely personal and constructively critical, but if that is not what you're expecting then I definitely will choose not to go there.

但后来我想知道你为什么发布此文章,所以我可以考虑与阅读,更好地从您的POV理解。

Thanks

#2018年5月19日五时29分11秒通过RWByrum @RWByrum

@JohnAbbot

你描述了我的位置比我做到了,约翰。至于为什么我写的,我是想的理解,不认可,甚至接受。但请记住,我写了这个在三月份之前,众所周知的排泄物制成与通风设备接触。我更看好不久的将来再比现在的我。我也不会现在这样写。

#2018年5月19日7时37分36秒通过Barry1 @ Barry1


@JohnAbbot

“我想知道你为什么张贴这篇文章。”


Roger is a writer, John. So apart from anything else, he enjoys writing about anything... and everything. Even if there may be no compelling message, no particularly relevant theme in each and every article.

对我来说,这是一件好事。写作写作的缘故。为艺术而艺术的缘故。生活中,偏偏。

If you want to see a blog that was written entirely without any particular purpose or message, for example, take a look at the following:

https://188bet官方网址www.win-bmw.com/blog/article/Helping-Western-Men-Chat-to-Chinese-Ladies

On the pretext of helping Western men communicate to Chinese ladies, the whole blog is basically about a TALKING PARROT. Had they been around here back in 2014 when it was originally published, serious folk such as Ryan and Melcyan would probably have rolled their eyes into their heads at this“空洞的,幼稚的胡言乱语“(他们的话,不是我的):d:d

But herein lies the message. All of us have individual characters and personalities. We all possess varying ways of expressing ourtselves. Different levels or appreciation of humour. Articles or words in my view don't need to compulsorily convey a particular point or message. Readers of course, can stop reading as soon as they feel turned off or bored by what they're reading.

So go, Roger, go! Please feel free to write whatever you want, as far as I'm concerned! (y)

#2018年5月20日14时41分47秒通过JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@ Barry1-I wasn't really asking Roger why anyone would choose to write any article, or why he chose to write this article in a broad, general sense. I was asking why he "posted it" as in what was he hoping to get for feedback. But read on...

@RWByrum - 也许我是在我的长,引出的问题是钝。而且,顺便说一句,我做,因为你的贴吧,我已经公布它已经经过的时间表示歉意。我的错!

但我担心的是,我不想进入那个涉及评估您的个人资料单张照片,为什么每一个可能是好还是坏,让您寻找理想伴侣的目的,除非这是你是什么长的详细答复寻找。坦率地说,我肯定这是不是你所期待的。

But then, are you simply looking for readers to respond by saying "Oh, great. Now I understand why you posted those photos. Thanks for explaining that."

我个人的倾向是包含在本段基本前提不同意:

你选择装扮成你在你的头像做,因为这正是你在现实生活中的着装方式,所以这是保证以最好的方式,你只吸引最适合成为你的终生伴侣,因为这些显然是女性的女性谁不是从你穿着你真的穿着方式真正的威慑。这些谁就会被吓倒永远不会让你一个很好的人生伴侣,所以你如果他们不来表达对你的兴趣不关心。

但是,如果你没有在你的读者是否与您在操作的前提下达成一致,而只是希望让他们理解你正在操作的前提感兴趣的话,那我就理解和不需要进一步的评论。

但是,如果你想要一个不同的POV为前提的有效性,那么我会作进一步的评论。

我希望这是我的问题的角度更加清晰,比我原先作出的。如果你有兴趣进一步讨论,请大家指教。如果没有,那么我就知道是由于缺乏响应,我不需要进一步置评的。

#2018-05-21 11:17:55 bymelcyan @melcyan

I am glad that you posted this blog. It is about you being you. Your honesty shines like a beacon. You are not trying to partner the many people criticising your profile photos. You are only interested in partnering a compatible person who is undeterred by the photos and values Roger for being Roger. I am getting a crystal clear picture of who you are and what is important to you.

Your target audience is very small. You are definitely going against the general advice given for success in online dating.

我不认为任何对CLM的其他人会考虑同样的战略,罗杰,但如果我错了,你正在考虑金宝博官网这一策略,那么你需要匹配或者相对于你自己的身份和值超过罗杰的清晰度。

#2018年5月21日13点49分31秒通过melcyan @melcyan

@ Barry1

I read your blog //www.win-bmw.com/blog/article/Helping-Western-Men-Chat-to-Chinese-Ladies again.

I will probably surprise you by saying it is definitely funny. You describe a real problem in a humorous way and by suggesting some ridiculously funny solutions没有比你靶向任何其他个人. Not only was the blog funny it was also thought-provoking and comforting to men experiencing the same problem. No purpose? No message? This blog definitely has a funny purpose and also a message about the difficulties of online dating communication.

我之前近两年加入C金宝博官网LM。我还记得你的第一个博客。188bet官方网址你的风格和幽默感是水晶在第一篇博客清楚。188bet官方网址有时幽默可以洞察力和幽默,有时是一个欢乐的分心。有时,在幽默的企图完全错过了标记,并适得其反。该正确的地方适当的时候are一切。一些博客最188bet官方网址好通过给在幽默的企图完全小姐服务。

根据我的伙伴和朋友,我有幽默感的伟大意义。我怀疑瑞恩也有幽默感的良好意识。任何人谁可以没有任何苦涩运行痛苦的战书,瑞安跑去到达终点必须具有幽默感。

When I used Ryan's words in bold and italics I was specifically referring to your comments about Ryan but is not just with Ryan that you have experienced failed attempts at humor. Your most spectacular failure was your "dump Lily" song that you wrote in one of Imi's blogs several years ago. Your blog "Helping Western Men Chat to Chinese Ladies " is an example of your humor at its best. It is definitely a far cry from "inane childish drivel".

Honesty and humor often work well together but in a sensitive environment like CLM if you are ever forced to choose between the two, then I hope the choice will be honesty. CLM is made up of男人和女人. Do you have any female CLM penpals who give you genuinely honest feedback on your words in a private email?

我对CLM的评论是少之又少,当金宝博官网我开始,但他们随着我接触CLM笔友增加。通常我对CLM的意见直接跟着电子邮件对话与金宝博官网CLM笔友。早期我的意见是更多匿名将比现在。

To all CLM men, I would like to thoroughly endorse the use of penpals on CLM as an excellent way of learning what Chinese women really think and what their values are. Solid penpal friendships with Chinese women will keep you grounded and greatly assist your pursuit of a quality loving life-long relationship with a Chinese woman.

#2018-05-22 04:13:26 byRWByrum @RWByrum

@JohnAbbot

我写的文章,因为我认为主题是足够的重视,值得比我在我以前的评论给了它一个更加正式和系统的治疗。

我在这里贴吧,因为我认为,人们读我的博客会觉得很有趣。188bet官方网址

不过,我可能是错在这两方面,但我让别人决定自己。

#2018年5月22日4时26分43秒通过RWByrum @RWByrum


@ Barry1

Thanks, Barry. What I think is really happening here is that John is afraid that if he posts a comment saying what he really thinks then I will suffer an emotional melt-down and disappear from the blogs forever. So, I think his questions are intended to elicit some assurance from me that this will not happen. That's my impression, of course, it could be wrong.

#2018年5月22日4时38分03秒通过RWByrum @RWByrum

@JohnAbbot

I'm always interested in intelligent discussion and I've never found the followers of these blogs to be particularly shy when expressing their opinions.

#2018-05-22 15:05:41 byJohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@RWByrum - 有趣的是,你的最后三个意见的一个我觉得有必要回应是一个给@ Barry1,而不是2给我。

I had not considered that you might have a "serious meltdown" at all. I thought that you might somehow interpret something I said as insulting in some way, even though I would not have been intending to insult you. When you're talking about another person's dress or appearance, even when it is a peripheral component to the discussion, there is always the chance they will misunderstand your meaning or intent.

但我不认为我会说woul的东西d produce anything approaching a "serious meltdown" in you. In fact, you don't strike me at all as the meltdown type.

我担心的是要知道,如果你想要一个样的反馈,将产生一个可能漫长而详细的讨论,关于“用照片来吸引你的理想伴侣,为什么我觉得你的做法是适得其反”。如果你有兴趣,我会相应评论,我会据此评论说,但如果你是不是在这样的讨论intrested,那我就过去了,因为我有更好的东西比踏上做了长时间的讨论,这样的讨论人谁不有一个兴趣。

It turns out we're having a detailed discussion now about having a detailed discussion, which is a worse waste of time and effort for us both than the one I was trying to avoid, so obviously I missed my mark.

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